How to Identify Low Self Esteem and Lack of Confidence

admin August 21st, 2009

How do you know if you suffer from a lack of confidence or low self esteem? There isn’t some light that flashes on or nasty rash that appears when you do is there! Friends and family won’t hit you with it over Sunday lunch or a night down the pub will they? Even if you do believe you do, you would not stand up in front of your friends or work colleagues and pronounce ‘My name is Arran and I suffer from low self esteem and lack in confidence’ would you!

You may appear very ‘normal’ to the outside world, have a good job, relationship and family but inside you can feel there is something adrift ; a fear or a deep rooted self criticism which you carry around, like a stone.

Your low confidence may not manifest it self in every situation, for instance, at work you may be the powerhouse, go getter, someone who everyone wishes they could be. Out of work though, you may struggle to form relationships, and maintain them or have the confidence to go new places. Being out of your comfort zone may fill you will dread and self doubt, you may worry about what others think of you and feel like your constantly acting to try and please.

Wherever it appears, be assured that you are not alone. Many people go through their whole lives just accepting, resigned to the feeling of ‘That’s just how it is’. They miss opportunities of love, success, growth and harmony while they struggle to maintain the equilibrium between the fear and really living.

If you feel you may lack self confidence, check through the following questions and see which ones best suits your behaviour. It may be some, it may be several, the point is, to begin to identify the situations and slowly work on those areas.

- Would you say you were a risk taker, or do you prefer to stay within your comfort zone for fear of failure?

- Are your choices your own, or do you let yourself be swayed by those around you and their expectations?

- Are you comfortable to admit to mistakes, or do you try and hide them in fear of embarrassment?

- Do you accept compliments easily, or do you play them down?

- Are you comfortable telling people your strengths or would you rather tell them how rubbish you are at things?

This short series of questions will not conclusively prove you have low confidence, though perhaps they may help you recognize the areas in which you are allowing your confidence to dip.

Realizing you may suffer from low self esteem or confidence is the first step to changing the path you are on. Then like anything, be it a hobby, relationship, job or a dream, it is down to you to take responsibility, put in the effort and look for a solution.

Arran Pullen http://www.arranpullen.blogspot.com/

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